How To Respect Our Parents And Keep Them At Cloud Nine……

Your parents care too much for you all the time. And you should also do, as much as you can, to pay back a good fraction and keep them happy. Remember, everybody’s parents are different, because they are raised in a different area or environment and are from different strata of society. Your parents may expect from you, different things than other parents do. Try to successfully figure out your parents’ expectations and try to exceed them. If they are angry with you, try to understand why they are? Accept responsibility for your actions that led to their anger, and take remedial measures with self -imposed discipline without complaint.\n\n\n\nVisualise and learn what you can do to be considerate of them. Below are some suggestions for you depending on your age and the cycle of life you are in:-\n\nRegularly do your housework /chores: Your parents expect that you do your stuff yourself. Take care of yourself, to the extent possible. Take care of the cleanliness of your room et al. This is a great way to show your parents, you care about their concerns. Do your chores without being asked to. That burgeoning desire to help yourself will –without failbe much appreciated by your reverend parents.\n

Parents may be multimillionaire by virtue of bank balance but still- back home-their eyes look around for truepennies in the form of how gracefully they are received back by their children or grandchildren after a toilsome day. Bare minimum, every parent expects that his teen plus children welcome him/her with a glass of water or a piping hot cup of tea or at least enquire how his day has figured out; that is to reaffirm that the sacred paternal bonding is alive and breathing.

\nDo more than you are asked to do: If your weekly chore is to iron your clothes, then iron that of parents and other family members too. That will lighten the burden off your parents and really mean a great thing to them. That will be an icing on the cake.\n\nHelp your parents in and around the house: your dad is cutting the grass outside the house, go grab the lawnmower and help him and age permitting. If your mom is mopping the floor, take the mop from her and let her get a break. Your parents are doing a lot, and it would make them happy if you were considerate of all that they do.\n\nDo well in studies: The biggest relief one can give to parents is by focussing on the studies. So go to school/college/ university regularly. Study every day and dedicate yourself to your studies. Do not skip school. This could create a plethora of problems for yourself and your parents. If you have to skip a class for something, tell your parents in advance before the institution tell them. In case you are struggling in a subject, share with your parents first. And get their help, instead of hiding it or just giving up. Deal this with maturity as you really care about your performance at school.\n\nBe good in extra-curricular activities: Find out what you like to do and are being good at. Remember that you do not have to be the best. Your parents will be happy just knowing you are trying your level best.\n\nCommunicate freely with your parents: There should not be any block in communication. If you have a different opinion on any issues, discuss in a cool, calm, composed and collected manner. Difference of opinion is natural and must be respected on both sides.\n\nBe a good listener: Parents have reasons, why they tell you to do things or set rules. Listening to them will help you to understand their logic and benefit from their chequered experience. If you have questions, just ask them and be open to their perspective. But mutual respect must not be compromised.\n

Treat others like you want to be treated. If you would not like to be treated or talked to in a certain way, do not do that to your parents and others. Your parents fervently expect that their own children and grandchildren should treat them , by the same caring way they treat or treated their parents.

\nRespect house rules. If you know your parents would be uncomfortable with you doing something in the house, and then opt to not do it. If they do not like alcohol in the house, only drink when you are socially out. Better to tell them what you are doing outside?\n\nAvoid arguments: Due to generation gap and changed scenario, you may not always agree with your parent’s way of doing things, but you must respect it. Experts say, please do not force your way of doing things on them in their own home. Though-on occasions- argument happens, and then talk to your parents, on the subject under reference, after at least 72 hrs. or when you feel both sides have cooled off. If you try and talk to them during the heat of the moment, it may further aggravate the issue.\n\nUnequivocally, admit your wrongs. It is easy to blame the other person for doing something wrong to you, but you also must consider how you contributed to the problem. You have to be more mature and own up to your mistakes. Maturity comes with positive attitude and not by aging. By admitting your mistakes you will be able to keep a happy relationship between you and your parents. Do not defend yourself to the point where you are not able to learn from your mistakes. Be a daily learner.\n\nRespect the space: Your parents spent many years raising you. Now, they probably want some emotional time to themselves. A healthy sense of space from you will keep your parents happy. If they are in a room watching TV, let them do so in camera.\n\nBefriend them: You are at a different phase in your life than your parents. As an adult, you can enjoy a mature relationship with your parents. Try activities with them. For example, watch a family movie or a sports event or help in preparing food. Since you live together, you will have plenty of time to spend together in a happy manner. Try and make it as relaxing as possible. That will be an icing on the cake.\n\nLearn to confide in them. As a teen, you may not be willing to discuss everything with your parents, yet wherever feasible, be bold enough to discuss and benefit from an advice that will be quite useful. Do not forget, your parents are more experienced down the lane. Letting them be of help will keep them close to your interest and engaged towards best solution.\n\nBe sincere to your parents: Being sincere and straight forward with your parents, will go a long way in making your parents feel as if you understand them. That always lay a foundation for a happier relationship.\n

\n When parents are living separately and independently: Needless to add that your parents always want to talk to you. Call them to see how they are faring. Make them feel that you care and understand them and vice versa. Set a weekly schedule to call or visit to touch base. Following points can help in strengthening this sacred relationship:\n\nTry to talk to both the parents\n\nRegularly visit them\n\nRegularly text them or talk to them so that they feel you remember them.\n\nHelp them to be mobile, to keep up their appointments, if need be.\n\nHelp them keep their appointments and buy their groceries.\n\nGive them gifts they need in Activities of Daily Living or a gift card\n\nLet your kids write letters or make pictures to send them.\n\nGive them something personal to them.\n\nMake it more than one day of celebrating. .\n\nDo not take advantage of them.\n\nRemember their birthdays. Take them out and treat them on their birthday(s), Mothers’ Day/Fathers’ day and wedlock day In conclusion, we can easily agree that nobody is perfect and living at home with your parents as an adult might pose some problems. You might do or say something you should not. Always apologize when you step out of line.\n\nYour parents do not expect you to always do everything right, and they are eveready to expunge your wrongs. But being able to own up to what you did wrong will show your character and make them feel happy.\n\nYour parents are people, too. They want to be treated with respect and consideration, same as you do. Talk to your parents about some problems they may be experiencing. Offer emotional support wherever warranted. If your mother is worried about a health issue or your father has stress at work, hear them out and offer them encouragement and any suggestion you think is helpful. Do not take advantage of their kindness, patience, and generosity with you.\n\nIf so, that can cause perennial tension in your relationship. Make it easier on yourself by honouring that they have the final say within their own house. This will ease any distress and keep your parents as happy as a clam.\n\n \n\n \n